Poison in the Home and It's Not What You Think

Great concern within the walls of our own home, poison that is being shared as entertainment. People wonder why we are so focused on sexual addiction issues but it is a major concern that is poisoning families for generations. I post regularly on the forums and it is amazing how many individuals will dismiss the dangers of porn. Recently in one forum a young woman was expressing concern about her husband viewing pictures of teen porn and boys. I couldn't believe the comments that were returned, here is one:

I can tell it is all women responding. I hope you have come to the obvious conclusion that your husband is gay. And sorry, there is no such thing as a "bisexual" guy. Those are just gay men who want to hide their true sexuality.

And "teen" in reference to internet porn usually refers to 18, 19 year olds (although surely some younger are thrown in).

And don't worry about your children. Men looking at young girls/boys on the internet don't want to rape their daughters/sons. That's just rediculous.

Your husband is just exhibiting standard behavior of a gay adult male. He is 100% fine (except for the fact that he lived a lie about his sexuality).

Here a woman is expressing great concern only to have this individual discount everything she was saying. I have listed some staggering statistics below but One thing that concerns me is how often people say, "It's Ok to look at porn. It's natural. It's normal, etc..."

Porn is very destructive and distorts what is really natural and healthy sexuality. This individuals husband is addicted to watching porn and is increasing his acceptance of what is Ok. At first when he started watching it, I am sure there was stuff that he is viewing now, that he was disgusted about but now feels fine about it. His acceptance of what is very destructive is increasing. He is lowering his morals every day because he is wanting to get that extra high.

She tried to confront her husband and he was just silent I think he recognizes he has a problem but is not quite ready to admit it. His desire to look at teen porn is extremely concerning because this is just leading into more and more perverse behaviors.

InnerGold likes to use a quote to help explain pornography addiction: "Once is to many and 1,000 is never enough"

Another words, you can never get enough of what you don't need.

There were a lot of posts in this thread that mentioned their concern about pedophilia, I echo their concern. It was more concerning about those who were discounting this and saying it is not that serious. Here lies the greatest fallacy! The more we get into dealing with sexual addiction issues, the more we realize abuse is a huge part of it. The staggering statistics that are coming out about generations of abuse that is continuously being perpetuated is extremely saddening.

Here are some very saddening :( statistics :

• 1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 18.
• 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 18.
• 1 in 5 children are solicited sexually while on the internet.
• Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults occur to children ages 17 and under.
• An estimated 39 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse exist in America today.

Even within the walls of their own homes, children are at risk for sexual abuse

• 30-40% of victims are abused by a family member.
• Another 50% are abused by someone outside of the family whom they know and trust.
• Approximately 40% are abused by older or larger children whom they know. Therefore, only 10% are abused by strangers.

Sexual abuse can occur at all ages, probably younger than you think

• The median age for reported abuse is 9 years old.
• More than 20% of children are sexually abused before the age of 8.
• Nearly 50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are children under 12.

Most children don't tell even if they have been asked

• Evidence that a child has been sexually abused is not always obvious, and many children do not report that they have been abused.
• Over 30% of victims never disclose the experience to ANYONE.
• Young victims may not recognize their victimization as sexual abuse.
• Almost 80% initially deny abuse or are tentative in disclosing.
• Of those who do disclose, approximately 75% disclose accidentally.
• Additionally, of those who do disclose, more than 20% eventually recant even though the abuse occurred.

(source: ACE Study - Prevalence - Adverse Childhood Experiences)

As you can tell sexual abuse is a lot more prevalent, unfortunately, then we would like to admit so there is great concern in viewing pornography of any kind.

I agree with one of the first responses on the thread that is being mentioned and that is the individual that is struggling with this needs to get some counseling, immediately. He may be dealing with an issue that is deep rooted that he is or has blocked out.